As most of you would have already seen I'm not the least bit normal, but then again who can or what can be called normal? Each person has a some weird trait, habit or talent that sets them apart or makes them weird. So nobody is normal because they are weird in their own way but being weird makes them normal... So how do you define whats weird and whats normal?
So there are a few things that keep me awake and surge my insomnia on, the thoughts that I'm about to share are in no particular order or connected to each other (or maybe they are, who knows what goes on this thing anyway) so proceed at the risk of your sanity, you have been warned!
Everyone has their own mind sets and thinking patterns. When we say or do something we do it with a certain intention but it can be interpreted in a million ways. Lets take an example, when somebody accuses me of something I didn't do I will go in to defensive mode and try to clarify things to clear my name. For me this an act of self defense, but their have been cases where the other person has interpret this act as a sign of aggression and retaliate aggressively. The end result being the conversation getting very hostile and turning out to be a huge argument. If one these people had the emotional intelligence (don't look at me, I have the intelligence level of an 8 year old even though I'm 26... Out of jokes it me most of the time in my life, even in the scenario I'm talking about) the logical thing to do would be to try to resolve the issue in a way that both parties are not hurt and the fight is sorted out then and their without it dragging on. In most cases people don't take the time or effort to look at a tense situation from an impartial aspect and do what it takes to resolve the issue, including taking the blame or take the fall for the greater good. People can be so one track minded sometimes that they are not willing to look at things from somebody else's point of view. Of course as the age of which kids mature reduces these days, youth are becoming self aware, hence more open minded but also self obsessed. The majority put them selves in a box and refuse to budge no matter what evidence or what anyone else tell them, everything has 2 sides to look at it from... ambiguity, the root and cause for all problems in the world.
What I interpret as correct is not what you will interpret as correct, everything has two sides and in both parties minds they are right for doing what they did. So in a world where people don't make an effort be considerate of other people's opinions, thoughts and feelings how do people continue to get along with each other and maintain their sanity???
Compromising, if you care about someone you accept them for their strengths and weaknesses... but by doing this we sometimes we ignore effect it has on us. I mean we withstand so much pain at the end of the day that we become numb and we forget who we are and become what the worlds us to be. People care about themselves only, but by thinking of other people are we being fair to ourselves?
Here's where the twist comes, sometimes when people think about other people they tend to do what they think is best for them and not what the other person actually want or needs, this happens a lot with parents and kids, especially in Asian countries where parents force kids to live their life the way they tell them to rather than letting the kid make mistakes and learn from them. Now I'm not saying that parents should let kids do what they want and give them what they want, A balance or compromise must be reached where the parents treat their kids with respect and let them forge their own lives and make their own mistakes. If you don't fail how do you know you did something wrong? If parents tell kids what to do all their life and make all their choices for them how are they supposed to make their own choices once they get married? all they will do is listen to what someone else says and be part of the system. True sometimes parents do know better because they have been through that age and and faced the same problems....but here's where they go wrong, everybody's problems are different and how they deal with it is different. Their way might have worked for them but there's more than one way to skin a cat.
If you look at some of the great minds of today most of them were rebels, they followed their own path, they forged their own destiny by not accepting what the world told them. They did things differently, they lived life they wanted to and that worked for them. Do you think Bill Gates mother was happy with him dropping out of school to pursue his own path with computers? hell no! she would have given him a good lecture, but look where he is now (Okay I really don't know what the relationship that Mr Bill Gates had with his mother and don't quote me on this but I'm just assuming that's what happened)
Something to sum this up....forging your on path in life is messy...you won't get much help as you are the best help you have as nobody will understand your problems better than you. This also means that sometimes you will have to go through hell because you won't always have the answers. So do you forge your own path or be a part of the herd to maintain your sanity and live the way world wants you to?
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