This is a rant I wanted to do for quite sometimes, I never found the right words to express how strongly I feel about this and how perfect I want it to be. The reason why I decided to go ahead with this article is because I realized no matter what words I use I will never be able to emphasize on how important this issue is
We live in a society where being polite, considerate and respecting others is rare quality in people. We actually value people who are polite to each and other no matter who you are, considerate of other people and their feelings and respect other people for their life choices, values and beliefs. How is it after how man has advanced technologically and socially that they cannot practices these manners. These are not qualities that should be rare to find in people, it’s something that should be mandatory for everyone to follow as part of living on this world. Instead human beings have alienated themselves from each other and live in their own little bubbles.
The values of society have become so distraught that we expect people to actually respect us more and put us on a pedestal for having manners. Manners isn't something done for fame and glory, it’s something that should come from the heart, something that is done because you think not only about yourself, but also about people around you. When I say people around you I don’t only part of your life in some way and know, I mean people who are around you that you will come across in your day to day life that you may or may not talk to. Being considerate of what other people might be going through, respecting other people’s lives are important, playing by the rules… these aren't things that should be considered things that only considerate people do, it should be engraved as rules of living in this world.
For example when your parents tell you something which you don’t agree because it either applies to a different generation or them speaking out of hearsay listening and respecting is the correct thing to do. I’m going to say polite thing because when I said correct, I meant polite, correct and polite are the same thing.
The best example I can take of how messed up societies values are how women are treated. Here’s the thing, guys say they respect women but I don’t think 95% know what it is to really respect a woman, hell, most women haven’t been taught what respect that they should get used to guys disrespecting them. Let me try and break down on why this is wrong.
For most guys respecting women is lying to them. When women are around guys can’t swear. They can’t act like how they act like themselves, they have to act in a way that is “respectable” to women, and Guys have to fit in to a certain mold for a woman to love him. If he doesn’t society dictates that that relationship will never work out and will be watching for that relationship to fall apart. Guys can’t be emotional, that’s not what how they are meant to act, they have to be the strong type with women as well as other men, God forbid if they do show emotions they're called pussies are told to stop being such a bitch, in short guys aren't allowing to his true emotions, he has to learn how to bottle them up and act tough and ruthless to survive in this world.
While a guy can look as ugly as Satan’s ass it doesn't matter as long he is rich and has a good job, that’s all that matters for parents and that’s what they program in to their daughters minds. Actually here’s the exact list that parents want when look for or when the girl is choosing a girl
1)
Same religion that you are from
2)
Has a good job
3)
Has lots of money
4)
Comes from a respectable family
Clearly they seem to be forgetting the most important things in a marriage, love and respect.
When a guy see’s or meets a girl where the first place is his eyes are drawn to? Don’t even try denying it guys. I admit it myself, as hypocritical as this is I’ll admit it that’s where my eyes go. I wish I was that guy, that guy who is gentlemen enough to be like everyone else and actually mean it when I say I respect women and actually mean it without actually respecting women according to my standards and values, but sadly I’m not. Here’s the messed up part I don’t understand at all, women are okay with this. Just because all guys do it they've got used to it and don’t think it’s something rude or impolite, letting us men believe its okay to stare as long as you don’t get caught. Honestly, I’m not complaining or trying to pass the blame, but I think if women started respecting themselves and treating themselves with more respect that would really drive the point in to guy’s heads that women will not roll over or let things go to avoid making a scene. I know, it’s not fair of me to pass the ball to women to do all the work for perceptional change in the society, but the fact of the matter is a crime isn't a crime unless you get caught.
Another thing I see guys do is when they see a girl with a guy they don’t like they try to convince the girl to break up with the guy. It’s as if they believe women aren't smart enough to make their own choices. Giving them your opinion is one fine, telling them they don’t like the guy for valid reasons, but trying to convince them they're wrong and they don’t know what they’re doing are two totally different things. There’s a very thin fine line between these 2 things, most guys don’t really understand or respect which is really sad to see.
One of the thing that really stuck to me which applies to this situation in a very vague way is parents teach their daughters to act in a way not to get abused, but they never teach their sons not to abuse women.
I may have been a bit harsh on guys, but this is how passionately I feel about this topic, this is very raw stuff. I hope you guys understand the point I’m trying to make and I’d love to hear your opinions on this matter and I hope it opens up the mind of even a few guys of the plight that women face on a daily basis.